Mark Day School
39 Trellis Drive
San Rafael, CA 94903

Social and Emotional Literacy

Social and Emotional Literacy, or SEL, is in all we do: How we make friends, resolve conflicts, and step confidently into new experiences. Our program, developed and supported by our school counselor, teachers, and administrators draws on a variety of resources to help children develop both as individuals and as members of the community. 

We believe that social-emotional work is integral to children's development, so it is implemented throughout our curriculum and valued as part of the academic program. The vision and goals of SEL are upheld by all members of the school community, with teachers being responsible for formal implementation in their classrooms.

Teachers might use morning meetings, principles from the Responsive Classroom program, or skills from the Toolbox (such as mindful breathing, respecting personal space, and empathy) to integrate SEL into the life of their classroom and to guide student behavior in all things.

Check out the Virtual Relaxation Room!

Featured Activity: Facing Fears

In 6th grade, students are in the midst of preparing for the transition from Middle Division to Upper Division. SEL discussions have grown increasingly sophisticated through their years at Mark Day. For example, science and SEL are merged during a lesson on genetics, bringing the question about whether fears and phobias are learned behaviors or genetic. Taught by Counselor and SEL Coordinator Theresa Hall and 6th grade science teacher Tim Evans, the lesson starts with a discussion around the questions, "if you have learned to be afraid, can you unlearn it?" and, "if it's genetic, can you manage it?"

San Francisco-based organization save brings exotic insects into the classroom, where students get to notice any fears they may have and practice their SEL skills to manage them. Students can gently hold the insects or pass if they wish. Every year, students surprise themselves by how well their SEL skills help them when a fear emerges.

Featured Activity: Mindful Moments

For kids and adults alike, it is often difficult to force ourselves to have a meditative mid-day moment. But it has been proven that even a few minutes of steady breathing in a quiet, safe place can be incredibly beneficial for the brain - specifically, it stimulates the brain to be more productive and creative.

Here at Mark Day, 2nd and 3rd graders practice "Mindful Moments." This is a time when students go to a place in the classroom where they feel they can calm their bodies and breathe deeply. They can lie down or sit on the floor, or relax at their desks. With their eyes closed, they use their breathing tool while listening to calming music or envisioning their quiet safe place. Afterward, students feel relaxed and ready for the rest of the day. It is not uncommon to hear students request to have a mindful moment.

Students will independently use their learning to:

  • Recognize and manage their own emotions effectively in a variety of situations.
  • Employ a variety of effective social and emotional problem solving skills.
  • Build and sustain meaningful relationships.
  • Demonstrate empathy and compassion.
  • Make responsible and ethical decisions.